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November 10, 2004


It is my opinion that most of us,
if we're lucky,
encounter a small number of people with whom we can be hopelessly in love.

To clarify, I don't mean simply in terms of a romantic relationship - by "hopelessly in love" I am referring to that scenario when you are so fond of a person that even the thought of them not accepting your adoration is enough to send chills down your spine.
Like you are so crazy about them that you almost can't stand it, and you'd be totally smitten with them even if they hated you.
You want to make them laugh, or ask their opinion, or dote on them, or be around them, or encourage them, anything.
They make you light up.
The relationship itself is varied: maybe a sister, a parent, a lover, a child, a good friend, a mentor, a protege.
It happens all the time with musicians or movie stars: Just a hopeless, unjustifiable, unrelenting love. A permanent crush, if you will, although not always a sexual one. When I first heard the term "people crush" from a friend, I knew that was it.

If it's a celebrity crush, it's likely not reciprocated, and therefore not terribly special.
What I mean is those couple of times in our life -if we're lucky- when a person we feel this way about, quite simply, doesn't hate it.
Maybe they accept it, maybe they ignore it, maybe they (gasp!) feel and act similarly, or maybe they just think it's silly and cute. Whatever they do, the important thing is that they don't get a restraining order, because that would mean that they didn't like it.

It's about these people, these too-good-to-be-true kind of people, that we do the most freaking out. The ones who we feel lucky to love, maybe.
I guess that's why we only get a few shots at it. It's lots of work.

Posted by kati at November 10, 2004 01:14 AM